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Some of you may have eventually learned how to start a conversation with a girl you like, but such an education is by no means universal. There are even some guys out there who can’t stand the mere idea of talking to girls, like that Indian nerd in The Big Bang Theory.
If this is your problem, first of all don’t feel weird. You are definitely not alone in thinking this way. Some guys have learned how to compensate, however, and here are some pointers that they have shared.
What you need to master first, when trying to master how to start a conversation with a girl, is to identify the women to approach. Some women are emitting “do not approach!” signals and you really need to recognize these signs if you don’t want to have bad time. Lay off when you see the following:
- If she is focused on her man or on her friends; wait until her gaze wanders throughout the room.
- If she is venting or spewing some angry words, wait until she’s through and she has calmed down.
- If she is smiling and then frowns when she realizes that you’re approaching her, then you’re not her type so move on.
The best girl to approach, in other words, is a girl who’s looking to be approached. She’s not with a guy, she’s not concentrating on her friends, and she’s in a good mood.
How to Start a Conversation with a Woman in the Office
The great thing about learning how to start a conversation with a girl in an office setting is that you already know that you have mutual acquaintances and that you have something in common. These can give you lots of possible options to talk about, and perhaps you can start by asking her about how she finds things in the office from her point of view.
Always be friendly and respectful, and keep your hands to yourself, so that you don’t suddenly get slapped, or slapped with a sexual harassment complaint. Follow this guideline even when you are with older women or other women who are already in committed relationships, so that the single women who ask about you will only get to hear nice things. The office grapevine can be a great promotional tool, and you can use that to your advantage.
How to Start a Conversation with a Girl at a Party
Parties are inherently social settings, and this means that most women there would be up to striking up new acquaintances. Since a lot of girls don’t especially warm up to strangers right away (hey, you may turn out to be a creep) try to steer the conversation to finding out about mutual acquaintances. Ask her about how she met the host of the party, and then ask her about herself. What she talks about tells you what she finds interesting (whether her work or her hobbies); get her to talk about these topics at length.
How to Start A Conversation with A Lady in A Bar or Club
This is a setting where some experts recommend clever pickup lines. Personally, and most surveys confirm this, I’ve always thought pickup lines to be a bit sophomoric and insincere—and these are traits that very few girls adore. Instead, just say hi and smile when you find her alone. The best way to start a conversation with a girl is to ask her if you can join her, and inquire whether she or her friends are celebrating something. Ask her to dance (if that’s appropriate for the place) and give her your name. Don’t forget to smile. Clubs and bars are places to have fun, and what you want is for her to have fun while she’s with you. You want her to associate the idea of fun with your company.
Following Up Your Conversation Later
The best measure of how much you’ve succeeded with your conversation with the girl is if she consented to give you her phone number. But getting her number is one thing, and learning what to do with it is another. Although calling her may be effective, for most shy guys texting is perhaps the most effective and most convenient way to go further with a girl.
The key to how to start a text conversation with a girl is to remind her of who you are. After all, she must have liked you because she gave you her number. You should make her understand that you’re calling her back because you like her too. Believe it or not, not every girl is confident enough about their own attractiveness. This fact explains the popularity of the Twilight books, because quite a few women identify themselves with the lead female character.
Start a text conversation by telling her who you are and by giving her some detail about yourself that you know she remembers. Once she texts back in a friendly manner, tell her that you enjoyed your conversation with her and would like to meet her again. Ask when she’s free, and then set a date.
In the end, keep in mind that learning how to talk to girls isn’t nuclear physics. It may not be easy for you, but it’s not difficult no matter who you may be. You just need to man up and find the guts to try out various ways to start a conversation with a girl, and sooner or later you’ll get to first base. Heck, if you try hard enough and long enough, you may even hit a home run. But you can never get a base hit if you never come to bat your turn. Once she starts to talk, please feel free to listen instead of planning ways to talk about yourself. The best way to make yourself attractive is to let her know you find her attractive too.
The Best Pick Up Lines: Keeping It Simple
In physics, you need a force that overcomes inertia to set a body in motion. In chess, great players have a wide range of repertoire regarding openings so that they can get into a good position to win the game. In the field of romance, it is the same thing: you need to make a good impression so that you may be able to impress and attract the girl you’re talking to.
To ensure success, you may want to brush up on the best pick up lines ever so that you can get the conversational ball rolling.
Before you do anything, watch this video I got from Youtube.
The Best Pick Up Lines From Movies
Many consider the movies as a valuable source of pick up lines, and not just because in the movies the guy gets the girl in the end. Quoting a line from a movie establishes a connection with the girl if she recognizes the line and the movie, and at the very least, you have established the fact that you both watch and enjoy the same kind of films.
Annoyingly, movie experts who offer some suggestions as to the best pick up lines from the movies tend to forget that these lines come at the beginning and not at the end. For example, so many of them list down “You complete me” as a memorable passage, forgetting the fact that in that Tom Cruise movie the bloke says this line near the end of the film when the couple already has a history together. Try saying that line when you introduce yourself to a girl, and you end up looking desperate—or worse, creepy.
Do you know the most successful pick up line in the movies, which have resulted in countless instances of success with women? It is this: “Bond, James Bond.” Those three short and simple words have resulted in an amazingly high degree of coital success for our intrepid secret agent for the last 50 years. Unfortunately, very few men in the UK have James Bond’s dashing looks, nifty gadgets, and killer confidence.
The Best Pick Up Lines That Actually Work
In fact, quite a lot of us tend to identify more with Hugh Grant’s character in Notting Hill. That stuttering tendency and predilection to ramble on and on is awfully familiar to many of us. In order to help you calm down, here are some pick up lines which tend to be safer and much more effective:
- “Hi, my name is ___.” This is the simplest and one of the more effective pick up lines ever. It’s a variation of “Bond, James Bond” except it’s much more realistic. It’s also considered one of the best pick up lines for girls, although for some reason when women take the initiative their rate of success tend to be higher than men’s.
- “You look great in that outfit” or “You have a great smile” (or eyes, etc.). You can’t really go wrong with sincere compliments when you start a conversation with a woman. Just make sure that you at least sound sincere, and she’ll appreciate it more. If you sound fake it can backfire rather badly.
- “Would you care for a drink” (if that is appropriate for the place and occasion) or “Would you like to dance?” Offering something to do together is always a good approach, especially if you have the skills and looks to match.
What you need to avoid are truly tacky pick up lines that are rude, trying to be funny and failing miserably, or historically clichéd lines such as “Do you come here often?” You can share these lines with your mates so that you can laugh with them about it, but if you actually trot them out it is you who will be laughed at.
Sometimes You Don’t Need To Know The Best Pick Up Lines
It’s unfortunate that most of us are cursed with awkward conversational skills without even Hugh Grant’s looks to balance things out. However, you can at least do your best with what fate has given you. It’s an accepted fact that your appearance plays a major factor in whether a woman will be attracted to you, so do try to make an effort in that regard. Wear nice clean clothes that fit you, and for goodness’ sake take a bloody shower. Take a deep breath or two, and smile when you approach her.
The First Rule Of How To Talk To Girls
In a recent survey, about 50% of all British men confess to a lack of confidence when it comes to the romance department. An estimated 15 million people in the UK are still single, and that’s not by choice; half of them are actually looking for a long-term relationship. Despite the fact that the UK has produced quite a lot of dashing men in cinematic history—and in actual history for that matter—modern Brits are suffering from a lack of confidence these days. Even approaching and talking to women is a great hurdle to overcome.
The first rule you need to remember is that you need to find the courage to actually come up to a girl and talk to her. It doesn’t matter how you motivate yourself. Maybe you may want to use military mottos such as Who Dares, Wins (SAS), Difficulties Be Damned (The Prince of Wales’ own Regiment of Yorkshire), or Fortune Favours the Brave (The Duke of Wellington’s Regiment). Or you can simply keep in mind that women are people too, and not some mythical monsters that are only too eager to devour you. Once you have managed to overcome that particular inertia brought upon by fear, the rest should be easier.
Of course, you need to accept that you can’t score all the time. Not every shot you make towards the goal will see the back of the net, and you may have to accept the fact that in these pick up games you may end up scoreless, many times. But still, at least you made the attempt, which gives you a chance at winning. By not making the attempt, you guarantee that you will lose all the time. This means that your single status isn’t the fault of God, or of Fate, or even of women. You will be single for the rest of your life, and you only have yourself to blame.